My mom was a single mother for 3 girls, when there were very few single mom's. Her oldest daughter Karen, was in a boating accident and became a double amputee at age 16. She had to deal with 3 not so thoughtful and sometimes selfish teenagers by herself. We didn't have much, but mom made sure we had everything we really needed. From there she became the Matriarch of 6 grandchildren, and 8 great grandchildren. She was always there for us, being the after school babysitter for Hayleah and putting down payments for homes, for myself and my sisters when we became single moms. My mom sacrificed throughout her life for us, like all mothers do. (Hence June Wild Ride 90 Years)
When mom visited us this August in our Michigan home, the last thing she said to me before she left was, " You don't need to come to Jacksonville, Fl. for my 90th Birthday Party. I see Mallery is going to live forever." My 15 year old Yorkshire Terrier, Mallery, had been many health issues which I had been nursing for almost 2 years. Truth be told, from the time we started planning hotel rooms and flights in July for her party, I had been stressing about leaving Mallery. The only person I felt comfortable leaving her with, was Joe. In June I had flown to my daughters to help care for her after a surgery. Because I was going to be gone so long, I took Mallery. She had never flown before, and because her health had deteriorate considerably from that flights there and back, I knew she could not fly again. After mom left our home, Mallery stopped eating all foods except crackers. We took her to the veterinary to find she had yet another health issue. I knew I could not leave her with Joe this time. I was unsure how he would handle the sleepless nights. I had struggled with that and knew how wearing it could be. Worst yet, I could get a call from him, telling me Mallery needed to be put down. Ultimately, I was the Alpha dog and she depended on me. I knew she felt my pain; choosing between my mom and my much loved girl friend. Mallery continued a downward spiral forcing me to put her down. She knew I could not put her before my mom. She knew this because I was her mom. The mother daughter bond is strong wheather human or dog. She gave me a month to bury her and morn her before I had to fly to Jacksonville, Fl for my mom's 90th Birthday. My mom sacrificed all her life for me and my sisters. Mallery sacrificed herself for me, and I sacrificed Mallery for my mom. Life is all about sacrifices.
John 3:16 "For God so Loved the World, that he gave His only Son that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life.
1John 3:16 " This is how we know what Love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for others.
John 15:13 "Greater Love has no one than this: that he lay down his life for his friend.
God, Jesus, and Mallery had no greater Love, there for, the least we all can do is learn to scarifies for others!
John 15:12, "My command is this: Love each other as I have Loved you.
My mom forgave all of us, as mothers do, for the disrespect, selfishness, and unkind words to each other. She forgave us the minute it happened. After all, that is why she has made it to 90, from the "Wild Ride" of learning to roll with the punches!
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Hi Diane, Your family is just like all of ours. The first 2 days my sister was here visiting for Christmas(she lives in Alaska) there was lots of heated words between her and my brother over President Trump. My brother and I voted for him and my sister was for Hillary. I felt like I was the referee and mediator and it was very stressful to say the least. He lives here in Eureka and he left and went home twice because of the fighting. They did good on the last 2 days of the visit though. In my experience these sort of flare ups are very common in families. We can choose our friends but not our family and just because we are family doesn't always mean we get along as well as we do with our friends. In the end you all did make the effort to travel to the party and that's all that mattered to your Mom. Your kitchen is beautiful, I love your style! By the way did you get my last post(the one about my girlfriends cat passing away?) Bless you Leslie +_+
ReplyDeleteHi Leslie, You are so right about family and friends. We have the same situation in our family with politics, and it is a under current frustration. And many times words flare to! Yes I got the message about your friend's cat. Here is the reply I posted in response. I copied and pasted it here so you wouldn't have to look back: "I am so sorry. Was it sudden or did she have to put her cat down? Hi Leslie, Sorry I missed your comment. Blogger has change a few things, making the set up a bit different and not seeing the comments as easily.Unfortunately my husband and mom are electronic challenged so neither of them know how to use my phone let alone the video.He he! Tell your friend Jody, I am so sorry for her loss. I really feel her pain. When you are in the club of calling your pet your "Best Friend", it can take a long time to get over your loss, if ever. I still tear up when ever I think of Mallery, and have heard some people say you never really get over missing them. I agree with you that certain pet/owner bonds are extremely strong that really cant be compared to any human person. People are people with their flaws, but animals are gifts from God. I think he knew we needed unconditional Love like Jesus gives us.I love that Jody and Jack even sound like a perfect match. I will add Jody into my prayers because I know the loss she has and will feel for a while. The only thing that give me joy is knowing Mallery and all pets that go to heaven, is they no longer feel pain and are free to run, see and be happy again. Take care and thanks for sharing about your friend".
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